"How can there be too many children? It's like saying there are too many flowers." Mother Theresa

Tuesday, May 6, 2008

I never thought I'd say...

With Mothers day approaching, I have to think of the two women, besides my own mother, who have greatest influenced my life: My son’s mothers. Not a phrase I thought I’d say when I was a little girl. I never thought I’d have son’s that were birthed by someone else. Women who I never met. Women who I am sure I would have loved. Women who were born on the wrong continent, for if they were born in the US they would still be alive and caring for their children. I am sure my kids and husband will buy me something grand for Mothers day. I think about them and wonder if ANYONE ever told them of their high value. I think of Derara’s Mom the most often, likely because we are adopting a second of her children. They have big doe eyes and I wonder if they got them from her. Derara has a delightful laugh and I wonder if it echo’s her laugh. Beniam has this behavior where he seems to retreat within himself when he’s in trouble, I wonder if in that place he can SEE or FEEL the comfort of his birth mother. I know these women loved their children. I know they wanted the best for them. I know they never wanted to leave them. I am so THANKFUL to have been given, or to have seized the opportunity to raise these kids. These are now my kids, but really they are Gods and they are taking up temporary residence in my/our heart and lives. Happy Mothers Day to all you mothers. Let us remember today the mothers who greatest influenced our lives.


JoyK said...

I got the wonderful blessing of meeting my birth mother 5 years ago. It wasn't all that I had hoped but I'm glad to know her. I also found out in the process that I have a half sister. I glad to know my birth mother now but I am so blessed to have my adoptive mother. I know that your children are blessed to have you and your husband as their parents. It's good to see an adoptive mother think of her children's birth mother on Mother's Day.


KT said...

These last two mothers days have not been what they were before bringing our girls home. It is no longer a day where I measure wheater or not I am appriciated enough. But rather, I wonder what the girls think of Mothers Day, likely their first thought isnt me. And that is fine! This year, I plan to make them a special gift, by which to remember their birth mother. She is in Heaven now, but I feel she is very much a part of my relationship with my girls, our girls (hers and mine).